elphhatz said: Hey! I saw that you identify as 'demisexual' and I realized that I have absolutely no idea what that means. I also realize I could just ask Google, but i'll take any excuse to make a connection with a fellow crochet friend by asking you instead :)
Ooh omg it’s really awesome of you to ask! =D
So I’m still learning about gender and sexuality identities myself, but demisexual falls under the umbrella that is asexuality. Asexual means a person does not feel sexual attraction towards any person regardless of gender or anything, they can still very much feel romantic and aesthetic attraction towards others and have very successful fulfilling relationships, but simply do not feel sexual attraction!
(here’s a little comic that nicely explains it as well I reblogged on my other blog http://idk-howthis-works.tumblr.com/post/87392629638/yamino-adriofthedead-okay-i-realize#notes)
So demisexual like I said falls into a similar category of asexual, me and other demisexuals do not feel sexual attraction towards anybody UNLESS there is a deep emotional bond established. Just like with asexuals we can still very much feel romantic and aesthetic attraction and build up wonderful relationships, but unlike asexuals, it is possible for demisexuals to feel sexual attraction to others when there is a very close bond established!
I notice this most in myself when my friends talk about celebrities or look at pictures of attractive people and talk about how they’d love to get in bed with them lol that’s just never clicked with me, famous or not, attractive or not, I’ve never like wanted anything sexual with a person no matter how attractive they are if I didn’t know them and they didn’t know me really really really well, if a really hot celeb offered to have sex with me I really wouldn’t want it.
Also just want to mention that close bond with a demisexual does not automatically mean they want to have any sexual kind of relationship with you! Just cuz you’re close to a demisexual person does not mean they WANT to have sex with you! This is where communication is key, in any relationship involving any and all sexualities!
So yeah, a short (but not actually very short, I’m so sorry if this is super wordy) little snippet into what demisexual is! Thanks again for asking! I enjoyed talking about it! =D